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30 Nov, 2007

The shoe issue, con’t

Posted by andrea tomkins in: Misc. life

So here’s the story. I bought a new dress, and although I may appear to be a confident gal who is all tra-la-la, I am torn about footwear. I need your help! Check out the photos below and let me know what you think. I’ve affixed a poll to the bottom of this post (it’s untested… I hope it works!).

I’m wearing this dress to a not-entirely-formal office party (not my office) which will take place in an Italian banquet hall on Preston St. This is not a swishy do at Rideau Hall or anything like that.

Thank you Marla for all your awesome suggestions. I could totally get lost in the Zappo site. Phew.

Btw, Mark thinks I’m being totally vain. I’m not vain! Just concerned, okay? :)

First, the photos:






ETA: I am totally laughing at myself. I seem to have the same panic attack every year.

22 Responses to "The shoe issue, con’t"

1 | Marla

November 30th, 2007 at 11:56 am


I’m the one so far who said to go shopping. My second choice are are the pointy black patent leather pumps – but think cute tights, either black or coloured; or flesh toned hose. Sheer black hose will look dated this year.

You see, what is called for here is something lighter, sleeker, more elegant. You have very cute shoes, and some are definitely funky – but funky rhymes with clunky and I adore you too much to see your outfit dragged down by clodhoppers.

And since you never said what you chose for last year, I would say once again – you need some killer black boots. Tall ones. Fitted. Sleek. The toe doesn’t matter – very square, rounded or pointy – and if they fit well, the shape of the toe doesn’t matter, because they won’t hurt. Your toe shouldn’t be jammed up in the point. A good shoe can be pointy but not painful, because your weight is balanced on the heel and ball. A 2″ heel is enough, if it’s light and balanced with a tall top and a graceful shape.

You know the other good things about getting some new chic black boots?

I present the Top Ten reasons you need new black boots:

1. They’re WARMER. We live in CANADA.
2. Fewer worries about runs in stockings.
3. They’ll look wonderful with trousers too.
4. You’re tall, thin and fit enough to carry off the kind that most of us would kill to wear.
5. You’ll look more polished.
6. Since, well, let’s admit it – you’re trying to look your most attractive, for yourself, for Mark, for others – people admire a good boot. It’s true. You’ll see. You’ll get as many compliments on your boots as your dress or anything else you’ll be wearing.
7. Nobody has ever looked at you in the last pair of shoes you have pictured there and said “Rowrrrr!”
8. Everyone can use a little “Rowrrr!” now and then.
9. Not only do sexy black boots look good with a cute dress on…they look good with nothing else on.
10. I don’t really need a reason after the last one.

2 | Miss Vicky

November 30th, 2007 at 12:15 pm


I am in complete agreement with Marla on this one.

3 | porter

November 30th, 2007 at 1:27 pm


Oh totally, Marla said it perfectly…BOOTS baby, you won’t be sorry…except for maybe the price tag. So sorry but it’s true. By the way, the second pair are quite cute.

4 | porter

November 30th, 2007 at 1:30 pm


I forgot what last years dress looked like and clicked to see it…holy sheeet man, that dress is HOT. HOT I tell you??!!!! Don’t get me wrong, I like this years dress but last years dress is so freaking HOT…it’s sizzlin. Sex it up woman. Now I definitely say boots. Sex. It. Up. You are one hot mama, Mark…I hope you are reading this…your woman is one hot chickadee! Yeah, I know you already know she is.

5 | laurie

November 30th, 2007 at 1:41 pm


I voted for the original pic, but I’m changing my vote and am officially in the Marla camp

6 | Marla

November 30th, 2007 at 1:42 pm


Think these:


And PS — I saw your comment to Porter on the other post. I think the print of the dress and the neckline are enough of a frame for your lovely face – you don’t want the eye going to a necklace. People will look at the necklace, unless it’s long and low and hanging right near the bottom of the V. Think about how in a photo the eye travels across it – same on a person. Which is also why you’re not going to wear clunky heels with that fun and flippy dress.

But, your red stone ring or a gorgeous bracelet will help make your animated gestures more interesting, without detracting. That’s why cocktail rings are called cocktail rings – they’re for making you your hands look lovely while you’re holding a drink, and drinking it – they bring sparkle near your face, but not to it.

7 | Marla

November 30th, 2007 at 1:42 pm


I am going to be here ten times today. Or twenty – not stalking. Just curious. And since I’m not going to any dressy parties this year, I get to do this vicariously through you.

8 | porter

November 30th, 2007 at 2:51 pm


Marla…you need to come to my house and get all Stacy and Clinton on my closet…take me into the 360 mirror! You are gooooood.

9 | andrea

November 30th, 2007 at 2:54 pm


$298.. !!! Ack!

They’re gorgeous Marla. :(

10 | J.

November 30th, 2007 at 3:18 pm


I love picture number 1 with that dress. Those shoes make your feet look awesome

11 | andrea

November 30th, 2007 at 4:00 pm


Marla: I’m in agreement with you about the necklace and etceteras.

Porter: you crack me up.

I’m looking at Marla’s amazing but $$$ boot suggestion again. Question: where can I find $298 to get those boots? And how can I justify spending that much money on myself. Gah.

12 | Marla

November 30th, 2007 at 4:14 pm


Well – you don’t have to get THOSE boots. But keep those in mind when you go shopping. It’s the idea of those boots – the lines, and the fact that they’re so gorgeous with only a two inch heel that’s important.

13 | porter

November 30th, 2007 at 6:02 pm


i keep checking back to see what people are voting for…looks like you might be going with your pointy shoes. they do look nice on your feet. you will get so much use out of f**k me boots….i hate calling them that! will have to check back tomorrow cause i’m off to pour some vino now to start off the night…..

14 | andrea

November 30th, 2007 at 6:07 pm


The pointy shoes are the most g.d. uncomfortable shoes in the history of footwear.

15 | Miss Vicky

November 30th, 2007 at 6:28 pm


Go shopping! Go shopping!

16 | Marla

November 30th, 2007 at 6:28 pm


Get rid of the pointy shoes. Get great boots.

17 | magggie

December 1st, 2007 at 4:28 pm


I think it has to be the pointy shoes, if the boots are out of the budget; but agree with Marla, you need to wear some black opaque tights. The bare legs just don’t work, jeez it’s 25 below and the tights, while not boots, will be sufficiently warm.

18 | steveK

December 2nd, 2007 at 2:34 pm


I keep looking at the pointy shoes trying to see the appeal. They make me think of you stood in front of a grade 3 class teaching math.

My vote is for the original pair or boots. Sexy!

19 | tali

December 3rd, 2007 at 10:31 am


Hey, when you were out shopping the rideau centre, were there any stores that you would recommend visiting, that had large selections of office-party kinds of dresses? I need to get a dress for a party, …but I have maybe 2 hours total I can spend shopping for said dress.

20 | porter

December 3rd, 2007 at 2:35 pm


Marla…WTF eh? Now I’m thinking that you (Andrea) shouldn’t just go along with what everyone seems to have voted and just blend in, you should stand out…in a nice pair of boots right??? How long are you going to keep us waiting with your decision…did you find boots or are you going with the pointy toes?

21 | a peek inside the fish bowl

December 3rd, 2007 at 5:57 pm


[…] The pointy black laquered ones are winning. (from this past post) […]

22 | Leah

December 4th, 2007 at 10:27 am


I bought a very similar pair of black boots recently (they were either Liz Claiborne or Anne Klein…don’t recall) at Winners for $79. Actually, I was shopping with Jeff and he stopped dead when he saw them and said “you have to buy these,” so that gives you a sense of the sexiness quotient. I’m not sure if they’d still have them, but you never know (and I’d offer to lend you mine, but our feet aren’t the same size!).

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