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10 Apr, 2015

How do you find joy when you feel like crap?

Posted by andrea tomkins in: Misc. life

It’s easy to find joy when you’re feeling great, isn’t it? When you’re well fed, well rested, and feel like everything is going wonderfully in your life, you probably find yourself tripping over joyous moments as you stop to smell the roses. Joy begets joy.

Here’s a question, how do you find those moments when you’re not feeling so hot?

I say this only because I feel like I’ve finally gotten to the end of a rather crummy week. Not that anything awful has happened, but I’ve been tied down with a head cold and not sleeping particularly well. Add to that the gloomy weather we’ve been having and a kitchen full of dirty dishes and a trip to the grocery store that awaits. Something as simple as a trip to the store isn’t so simple today. It feels like someone has asked me to climb Kilimanjaro in flip flops. CAN I DO THIS?

I feel drained, like a wrung out old sponge, one with a whiff of mould about it no less. I desperately need a haircut and colour and some kind of wardrobe injection. (Scratch that, I actually need a stylist and someone to tell me, “YES, YOUR BUTT DOES LOOK TOO BIG IN THOSE PANTS LADY.”) My current roster of footwear is depressing the crap out of me right now and frankly, when I think about it, I realize, more than anything I’d rather be eating a tray of brownies in bed right now thankyouverymuch.

I am struggling to find the joy today, but I will. I will buy ingredients for brownies while I’m at the store, and watch the robins hop around in this April bluster, and I will cuddle with Piper, and I will push past this and patiently await the coming of sunnier days.

4 Responses to "How do you find joy when you feel like crap?"

1 | Jen_nifer

April 10th, 2015 at 7:33 pm


It’s been particularly grey the last few days. Have you been using your LiteBook?

I hope you brought those ingredients for brownies!

2 | Sarah McCormack

April 11th, 2015 at 2:56 pm


your answer is in the last paragraph…… do those things :) the sunnier days are coming!

3 | andrea tomkins

April 12th, 2015 at 8:43 am


To answer your question Jen_nifer… I haven’t been using my litebook. I put it away right before March Break and have been trying to spend more time outdoors instead. Sigh.

Brownies were baked and enjoyed very much. :)

And thank you Sarah!

4 | Sarah McCormack

April 12th, 2015 at 8:59 am


p.s. vitamin D, especially in the winter months can also help a lot! most Canadians are vitamin D deficient… such an easy fix :) enjoy the sunshine out there today!

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