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30 Jun, 2019

General Life Update

By andrea tomkins in Misc. life

If you follow me on Twitter or Facebook you probably already know what I’m about to say but I feel like it has to be said here too: THINGS ARE HAPPENING. I can only describe these last few weeks as A Whirlwind of Emotion.

Item one: The youngest daughter has graduated from high school. We attended her commencement ceremony this past week. Some aspects of commencement drove me absolutely bonkers and dare I say, pushed me into a state of near rage. Ticket purchasing was awful, standing in line before the ceremony so painful it was comical, the parking was bad, and parts of the ceremony itself were disorganized, but I was able to overlook those things because (a) OUR DAUGHTER is awesome (b) she’s so darn smart (c) hello list of ACADEMIC AWARDS (d) I was able to connect with people I hadn’t seen in a long time (e) one of her teachers said so many nice things about her I almost melted with pride.

Sidebar: How on earth did we suddenly become parents of kids, er, YOUNG ADULTS who are now out of the public school system? It really wasn’t that long ago that I watched her and her big sister walk off down the street. Now they will be walking together down a different road, as they’ll both be at Queen’s in the fall. Sigh. Also, Mark and I will be empty-nesters. (!!)

Item two: I’ve left my job as managing editor of the Kitchissippi Times and am passing the torch. This is a biggie for me as I’ve been at the helm of the paper for almost six years. I think I counted 132 folders on my hard drive, which corresponds to 132 issues. Honestly, I can barely process this. It was a dream job from the very beginning. I met so many great people and learned so much during my time there and I will miss it very much. But…

Item three: I’ve accepted a job offer from the Royal Ottawa Mental Health Centre. A few weeks ago I was practically vibrating with anxiety. I was attending multiple interviews and playing out multiple scenarios in my head. To add to it all, at one point there was another job offer for a different job in there too. I don’t say this as a humblebrag, only to paint you a picture of the state I was living in for a while. Should I take Door A or Door B? Or stay where I am? Where do I want to be in five, ten, fifteen years? In the end, I had to go where my heart is, and that’s the Royal. I was thrilled to meet their team. There are big brains at work and I loved the idea of contributing in a meaningful way. I’m stepping in to their communications team as a writer, by the way. Not to discount what I have been doing up until now, but I really want to do my best work in the best place at this point in my life. Does that make sense?

Item four: The youngest and I are leaving for a grand adventure to Thailand. Thailand, a country on the opposite of the world. I have never travelled this far. We leave July 4. I have a to-do list a mile long and have been oscillating between feelings of panic and joy.

24 hours of travel time.
Tiny airplane bathrooms.
Leg cramps.
Heat and gastro bugs. (You wouldn’t believe the pharmaceuticals I’m bringing with us.)
Foreign languages I will never understand. e.g. how will I ask for directions???

vs.

Travel time with my daughter.
Memories of a lifetime.
Amazing food and cheap beer.
Miles of beaches and ocean.
Seeing a totally different part of the world and learning something new.

So you can imagine how many lists I’ve had on the go, both in my head, written out in my agenda, and tapped out in the cloud (and therefore accessible to all devices in case of emergency jottings). Ack! All that being said, I would like to update this blog while I’m away but I’m not sure what the situation will be like while I’m there. Fingers crossed. xo.

22 Jun, 2019

Weekend reading: June 22 edition

By andrea tomkins in Weekend reading

On the nightstand: Dead Until Dark, by Charlaine Harris

21 Jun, 2019

Moment of bliss #0024

By andrea tomkins in Moments of bliss

I made a promise to myself to be more active, and one of the ways I do this is by taking brisk walks. Once upon a time I tried running, but I realized I hated it so I reverted back to walking. If I can pull it off, I try to get in at least one 5K powerwalk every week.

I charge up my phone, set up my “MapMyRun” app, load up a new podcast, and go. I think what I like most about my powerwalk is (a) simply being outdoors (b) the opportunity to listen to a good show and learn something new. But this process is all business. I don’t actually think much about it anymore. I don’t think about my route, what I’m wearing, or how much I’m sweating. I am a machine made out of skin and bone! This might sound like I don’t enjoy my power walks but they are strangely devoid of joy. Does that make sense? I like my power walks well enough – I certainly don’t hate them –  but I don’t get the same feeling I do when I’m coasting down a hill on my bike. You know, the sensation of the wind in your hair as the landscape races by. (The only way I could possibly improve upon that feeling is if I had a baseball card in my spokes and streamers flying out from the ends of my handlebars.)

Today I was inspired to veer off my walking route and take a peek at Maplelawn Garden, which is a walled garden right next to Keg Manor on Richmond Road in Westboro. At first I was going to give it a pass, after all, I had things to do! A list to whittle down! Calls to make! Emails to write!

Little did I know that one of my favourite quiet spaces in Westboro was about to take my breath away. It is wall-to-wall flowers there right now. I sniffed them, admired them, pet them, and wandered amid the kind of beauty that we just don’t see every day. It’s the kind of place that calls out to you, and then says, hey, it’s ok to linger here. Let’s enjoy this while we have it.

Maplelawn, 2019

Maplelawn, 2019

Maplelawn, 2019

Maplelawn, 2019

Maplelawn, 2019

You see, I have a to-do list a mile long and I’m haven’t been handling it very well. But while I stood there, the stress that had been building up behind my eyeballs suddenly dropped away. I remembered to breathe deeply and let this fleeting beauty fill me up, and maybe even tide me over for a bit.

(Big news coming your way soon. Stay tuned.)

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My name is Andrea and I live in Ottawa with my husband Mark and our dog Sunny who is kind of a big deal on Instagram. During the day I work as a freelance writer. I am a longtime Ottawa blogger and I've occupied this little corner of the WWW since 1999. The Fishbowl is my whiteboard, water cooler, and journal, all rolled into one. I'm passionate about healthy living, arts and culture, travel, great gear, good food, and sharing the best of Ottawa. I also love vegetables, photography, gadgets, and great design.

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