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16 Sep, 2009

The power of The Ask

Posted by andrea tomkins in: Misc. life

Thank you all very much for your kind comments regarding yesterday’s post. I am feeling totally charged and ready to rock. Woot!

Ann commented about something I meant to add to the original post, and that’s about Putting Yourself Out There and Asking the Universe. I’ve written about this before. I know it sounds hokey but I totally believe it. 

I think the idea of The Ask is a two-fold kind of thing:

You have a goal. Something you want to achieve. Step (1) Ask the Universe (or your god or whatever). You have to ask out loud. It’s not good enough to whisper it into your pillow at night or keep it buried deep inside your heart of hearts. If you ask the universe it will deliver, but it won’t be via FedEx. You have to take some action too, but the first step is to put it into words.

I also believe this is all mixed up with karma. Good things will happen to good people.

Step 2) Ask someone for something you need in order to help achieve your goal. If you ask someone for help you won’t be in it alone. Need guidance? Support? Babysitting? Someone to drag you off the couch? Ask. If you don’t, you’ll just go on wondering/suffering/living without achieving the thing you truly desire.

What’s the worst thing that can happen?

I know this is a big question for a Wednesday morning, but I’d love to know what you’re dreaming about and what kind of goals you want to achieve. I think it’s something we need to take time to think about. It’s too easy for our dreams and goals to get lost in the minutia of everyday life.

So here’s my question for you: What are you asking for? And how are you get it?

  • Is it a new job? If so, can you narrow it down and start asking people if they can keep an eye out for interesting opportunities?
  • Is it a mompreneur kind of thing? You want to sell knitted baby hats at craft shows but don’t know where to begin? 
  • Has it always been your dream to be a sommelier/photographer/pastry chef? If so, what steps can you take to get there?

Anyway. This is all rambling about in my head and it’s come out all higglety-pigglety. I have to get back to work! So over to you.

6 Responses to "The power of The Ask"

1 | Lynn

September 16th, 2009 at 11:17 am


Like many people, my problem is that I don’t know what I want. If I were to ask the universe for something, it would be for some direction.

I have a few things I like to do right now — write, bake, work on PTA stuff. But do I want to take that further? Do I want to turn it into something more? Is there something else I am wanting or waiting for?

I’m not sure.

I need some vision.

2 | Natalie

September 16th, 2009 at 11:35 am


Having just lost my job last week I am seeking a new opportunity that will be both challenging and allow me to stretch myself.

Thanks Andrea!

3 | Loukia

September 16th, 2009 at 12:55 pm


All I want is to be able to get up for once before my children to, so I’m ready before they’re up and need me! ;)

Really… all I want is be able to kiss and hold my children’s chidren. That’s all, I swear.

And… to publish a children’s book eventually. To lose weight. To get new kitchen counters. To hopefully become permanent in the gov’t soon! To go on more trips. Okay, okay, I’m over-doing it here… ;)

4 | BeachMama

September 16th, 2009 at 7:16 pm


Great post Andrea. I do find it hard asking out in public though, goes hand in hand with my shyness. Yes, I am shy… until I get to know you then you can never get rid of me ;).

All I want is for my business to be a success.

5 | Carly

September 17th, 2009 at 7:41 pm


I need to exercise in the morning. So I’ve asked for the strength and perseverance to get myself out of bed in the morning before the Little Man gets up so I can have some time to myself.

I asked my husband to help me in three ways (and he did!).

1) Gift me with an MP3 Player (not a fancy one, just one that will play my upbeat music.

2) Wake me up when you leave the house for work.

3) Move the elliptical (or exersaucer as we call it) out of the basement and into our bedroom so it stares me in the face every morning.

So far, so good.


6 | andrea

September 17th, 2009 at 10:23 pm


Lynn: perhaps a plan is in order. Or at least a fill-in-the-blank exercise. “I love/want to ___, therefore I should ___.” Finding that *thing* is the biggest step of all.

Natalie: Sorry to hear about your job. I’m sending good vibes your way!

BeachMama: I’m shy too. But sometimes we have to force ourselves to stick our necks out …

Carly: your comment made my day. You GO!

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