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15 Jul, 2007

Monkey see, monkey do?

Posted by andrea tomkins in: Misc. life

I’m supposed to be working on a couple of things, including an updated version of my resume that I had promised for Friday. I am stuck. I find it difficult to be my own cheerleader.

Emma asked me if she could read my blog yesterday. In fact, her father showed her exactly how to get to it.

I struggled to remember what I had written. And then I figured it didn’t matter. This blog normally doesn’t contain anything x-rated.

In fact:


But I’ve been handed an interesting dilemma. I don’t think I’ve written anything that would hurt their feelings, but now that Emma is older I��am not comfortable��sharing any whiny self-indulgent parental-related angst. Now, more than ever, I have to consider who I’m writing about, and how I come across in these pages of mine.

I never planned this far ahead. I never planned anything, I started doing this when she was born.��This “place” has always been all about me. But it isn’t really, is it?

In fact, I am going to have to��start asking permission to post photos of the girls. It’s only fair.

I heard Emma sigh and mumble something about wanting her own website. I guess I had it coming huh?

5 Responses to "Monkey see, monkey do?"

1 | Bonita

July 15th, 2007 at 4:39 pm


I just had to do that, by my own cheerleader. After more years than I care to say I had to do a resume and it was very difficult. But, I did it and I got the job. During the interview I was asked what it was about me that made me suitable for the job…I stopped short of saying I had no idea but then I heard the voice of a very wise woman telling me I was more capable than I let myself believe. It’s not being your own cheerleader, it’s just believing in yourself…

2 | Pendullum

July 16th, 2007 at 8:34 am


No one knows about my blog…
Well, my husband does… and I doubt he reads it…
But he has always wanted to be annonymous in a way… and is fearful of stalkers who may be out there… I respect that,and try to keep all geographical reference points off of my blog as well…

3 | chantal

July 16th, 2007 at 8:43 pm


I’m not concerned about everyone else, but now that EVERYONE I know reads my blog, I’ve toned down. It’s not that I feel censored, but I realized that if my Mom can read it, one day my kids will too.

And they’ll blog one day too, I’m sure. ;)

4 | DaniGirl

July 17th, 2007 at 7:50 am


Yah, what Chantal said. I never worried about what the strangers thought, but I’m pretty careful when I think about what the family reads.

And like you, I’m just starting to think not only about the boys reading it, but maybe someday the parents of the boys’ friends, or the friends themselves.

I’m hoping they do blog some day – at least I’ll have some insight into what’s going on in their heads when they no longer chat openly at the dinner table!

5 | Lex

July 18th, 2007 at 9:01 am


It’s interesting isn’t it, shifting your audience.
My mother-in-law just started getting my posts emailed to her (through feedblitz) and that has popped into mind when I was writing something especially racy or caustic.

My last post references a student team which is working on a project for me. How would I react if they read what I wrote? Well, it might be a tiny bit awkward, but before pushing “post” I always ask myself this question:
– would you give a copy of the post to the person you are writing about?

If not, I rewrite or don’t post.

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