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20 Feb, 2012

Our daily bread, from our favourite breadwinner

Posted by andrea tomkins in: Misc. life

Breadwinner.

It’s an interesting word, isn’t it? Someone who “wins the bread” (so to speak) is the primary earner in a family.

The word “bread” has Old English roots and has commonalities in other Germanic languages. In German it’s brot, and in Swedish it’s bröd. According to the Wiki entry about bread, it is believed that the original term derives from the word “brew” or “break.” (Did you know I was such a word nerd?)

Bread – whether it’s leavened or unleavened – has been the core of the family meal for thousands of years and features prominently in kitchens around the world in many forms. Think about it for a moment:

Tortillas
Matzo
Naan
Roti
Rye
Baguette
Pretzel
Bagel
Pita
Bannock

These breads have as many similarities as they do differences.

Bread is one of the world’s oldest prepared foods. The existence of leavened bread has been traced back to prehistoric times, so how could it not become part of our global culture? We break bread together. It’s part of the Lord’s prayer. It is one of the elements of the Eucharist. It’s one of our most basic needs: “A loaf of bread, a jug of wine, and thou.”

I thought this was a particularly interesting snippet from Wikipedia:

“During the 1950s the beatnik community used the term bread as a euphemism for money. In Cockney rhyming slang, bread means money; this usage is derived from the phrase “bread and honey”. The word bread is now commonly used around the world in English-speaking countries as a synonym for money (as is also the case with the word dough).

“The cultural importance of bread goes beyond slang to serve as a metaphor for basic necessities and living conditions in general. A “bread-winner” is a household’s main economic contributor and has little to do with actual bread-provision, for example. This is also seen in the phrase “putting bread on the table”. A remarkable or revolutionary innovation is often referred to as “the greatest thing since sliced bread”. In Russia in 1917, Lenin and his fellow Bolsheviks promised “Peace, Land, and Bread.” The term “breadbasket” is often used to denote an agriculturally productive region. In Slavic cultures bread and salt is offered as a welcome to all guests. In India, life’s basic necessities are often referred to as “roti, kapra aur makan” (bread, cloth, and house).”

So, yes. Breadwinner. The winner of the bread. What happens to a family when the breadwinner’s basket is empty?

I haven’t been very forthcoming here, have I? As I look over what I’ve written so far I realize that I’m delaying the inevitable by burying the point of my post underneath a pile of words about something inconsequential that has been occupying my mind. Half of you may not even get to this point. I don’t know. Perhaps I’m trying to help soften the blow for myself. To see the truth written here in black and white… hurts.

I feel like my normally sunny outlook has been obscured by a large black cloud.

As some of you know, my husband Mark works at CTV Ottawa. There was a big layoff on Friday (you can read the CEP press release here) and he is one of the many people who has been affected. Mark, who has worked there for over 25 years, may or may not have a job. I won’t go into detail right now, but I will say that we still don’t know the exact details of his situation and cannot predict what the outcome will be. A dreadfully sharp ax is hanging over our heads and we are absolutely paralyzed. MENTALLY, physically, it’s been a blow… and it has been taking its toll on us every sleeping and waking hour this weekend.

The girls were devastated when we told them. They are very proud of their dad, and to tell them he might not have a job anymore, at a television station that by all counts is very successful, well, you can imagine how well that went over. We’ve spent the weekend trying to keep them distracted but the mood has been a somber one. The evenings have been quiet and the nights… sleepless.

It’s been quite the Family Day weekend.

So yes, Mark and I are feeling rather helpless. He’s pouring over numbers. I’m counting my clients. We’re pulling back from practically everything like a pair of frightened old tortoises. Emma’s getting braces tomorrow… that is going ahead as scheduled. As for the reno we were planning? That’s a topic I’ll save for another post.


39 Responses to "Our daily bread, from our favourite breadwinner"

1 | Psychgrad

February 20th, 2012 at 6:07 pm

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I’m really sorry to hear about this Andrea. I went through this last year, so I have a sense of what you’re going through. Hoping for the best for you guys.

2 | Brie

February 20th, 2012 at 6:15 pm

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I’m sorry Andrea. And Mark. That is very, very scary news. I am hoping that the cuts won’t fall against you, but either way some family will be suffering through job losses. My heart goes out to whoever that family might be.

3 | Hollie

February 20th, 2012 at 6:15 pm

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So sorry to hear this, as you know my recent job loss hit me like a ton of bricks, out of left field, but I knew that day what was up and what was down, praying Mark finds out quickly what is instore, because even in a layoff knowledge is power, uncertainity just sucks you dry. So sorry it had to happen on a weekend that is to celebrate family as well. Just to let you know I get it and more then get it.

4 | Hollie

February 20th, 2012 at 6:17 pm

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By the way since Mark is such a long term employee, he is treated much differently in a layoff, there is severance etc to consider.

5 | Mary Lynn

February 20th, 2012 at 6:56 pm

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When I heard the news, I’d wondered if your family had been affected. So sorry to hear that you might have been. The uncertainty must be awful. At least if you know one way or the other, you can move forward with planning what you need to do next.

We’ve been through this a couple of times before. Once my husband was almost laid off (he found a different position a few days before his final day). Then a few years later he was laid off from another company, that he’d moved to hoping it would be more stable than the previous one. In both cases we went through a real roller coaster of emotions.

Anyway, my thoughts are with you.

6 | Jay

February 20th, 2012 at 7:05 pm

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Job cuts suck! We’ve been through it 3 times – but everytime they’ve happened we’ve come out ahead, wound up at places that have excelled our careers or have been a better fit! This is a great time for change and change is good! Best of luck in the future! It’s tough – but you know you’ll pull through:)

7 | Carly

February 20th, 2012 at 7:26 pm

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I’m so sorry to hear your news. Praying it all works out for the best, and you don’t have to wait for the “long run” before that happens!

8 | Giulia

February 20th, 2012 at 7:44 pm

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Sorry to hear that- uncertainty is the worst…my husband being part of former Nortel, went through many iterations. I wish you much strength and courage and am certain that new and great things are around the corner for you and your family.

9 | Lynn

February 20th, 2012 at 8:03 pm

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I’m so sorry to hear the news, Andrea…that is so hard and scary. I’ve been through it myself at Nortel and there is a definite loss, panic, and grieving process. Sending you warm thoughts and high hopes for the best.

10 | Nora in Kanata

February 20th, 2012 at 8:12 pm

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As one who was laid off by CJOH back in the 90s, I can tell you that whatever happens with his position, you and Mark and the girls will get through this. You will be OK.

11 | Lindsay

February 20th, 2012 at 8:38 pm

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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. The uncertainty must be so hard. :-(

12 | Nolie

February 20th, 2012 at 9:00 pm

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I am so sorry you are going through this. Sending big virtual hugs and have you guys in my thoughts hoping this all works out.

13 | Iain Robson

February 20th, 2012 at 9:49 pm

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Sorry to hear that. I am reminded of Red Green who says, “Keep your stick on the ice.” Thus, one can only keep a positive attitude and hope for the best.

I hope all works out for you.

Iain

14 | Kathleen

February 20th, 2012 at 10:10 pm

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Thinking of you and your family, Andrea. We had a major health scare with my husband last year (he’s totally fine now). The worst part was wondering about the diagnosis and planning for different possibilites without all the info. Be very gentle with yourself as you deal with the layers and levels of shock. These major life events take much more energy than you can imagine. Memory, patience and concentration all take a hit. Sending hugs and hope your way.

15 | Ginger

February 20th, 2012 at 10:17 pm

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I am so sorry your family is suffering this uncertainty right now. I am sure it was very hard to share it. I will keep you all in my thoughts! {big virtual hug} to you

16 | Lesli

February 21st, 2012 at 9:02 am

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I agree, it`s the uncertainty of it all that makes these situations so unbearable. I hope it doesn`t drag on for you.

17 | AllisonP

February 21st, 2012 at 9:34 am

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My sympathies to you and Mark. As you know I’m in a similar situation and have been working through similar uncertainty and worry.

18 | elsewise

February 21st, 2012 at 9:42 am

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What a hard time for you. You’re so creative and enterprising, though, that I don’t doubt for a moment that your family will find a way to not just manage, but thrive.

It’s a tough time in Ottawa these days. When the federal budget comes out next month, all of us government workers will be holding our breath to see who’ll be affected by our own sweeping cutbacks. It’s awfully scary to crunch the numbers and talk through all the practical concerns. Still, I have this tiny yet persistent belief that something beautiful always comes out of the darkest days.

19 | zchamu

February 21st, 2012 at 9:43 am

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Oh Andrea. I have everything crossed that all will be OK.

20 | Marla

February 21st, 2012 at 9:51 am

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So sorry to hear this, guys.

21 | Kristina

February 21st, 2012 at 10:09 am

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I’m sad to hear – but I can assure you, as a kid whose dad had multiple lay-offs (including one really long one in the recession of the ’80s) that your girls will ALWAYS be proud of their dad. I know how stressful this is and I’m hoping so hard that he can keep his job. Big hugs for all of you.

22 | kate s

February 21st, 2012 at 10:11 am

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oh Andrea, this really sucks. Uncertainty is awful. Sending good vibes your way.

23 | Kat

February 21st, 2012 at 10:17 am

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You girls will always be proud of their father regardless of layoffs and setbacks. We have gone through several in the industry my husband works in and as cliché as it seems, keep positive and always have each other’s backs.

24 | Vicky

February 21st, 2012 at 10:22 am

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Andrea, that sounds so hard and I’m sorry your family is going through it. I’ll be thinking about you a lot today, and I hope you get some answers soon.

25 | coffeewithjulie

February 21st, 2012 at 10:55 am

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Oh geez! I wasn’t even going to read this post because I thought you were sharing a recipe for how to make homemade bread!

I’m so sorry this is hitting you guys. Layoffs totally suck. In high-tech, we get a little “meh” about them because they happen so frequently, but I can imagine how hard it might hit Mark after being with the same employer for so long.

However, I have NO DOUBT whatsoever that two people like you and Mark who are smart, resourceful, hard-working, and extremely talented will be able to land on your feet after you get over the initial shock. No doubt, whatsoever.

Thinking of you … Julie

26 | Valerie

February 21st, 2012 at 11:02 am

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The uncertainty is the very worst. I pray that you’ll come out ahead and will be able to proceed with your renovation. How terrible to have all those plans fall to the wayside.

27 | Finola

February 21st, 2012 at 12:17 pm

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I have my fingers crossed for you guys and I’m hoping it all works out for you. Ugh!

28 | DaniGirl

February 21st, 2012 at 12:17 pm

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I’ve been thinking about you guys since I heard the news last week. I’m so sorry for the stress you guys are under, but I have no doubt whatsoever that you will all land on your feet. With your collective brains, resources and community connections, I know you’ll be able to turn this into a positive experience. Wishing you courage and strength to get from here to there…

29 | Tamara

February 21st, 2012 at 12:25 pm

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I’m so sorry to hear this. My family went through a similar situation when my Dad was laid off during the massive cuts in the late 80s after at least 2 decades of service. It’s not easy but my parents didn’t hide it from my sister and I so we were aware. It was challenging but we pulled together. It wasn’t fun but it was necessary, I know you and your family will figure it out, just like mine did, braces and all.

30 | Laura Daub

February 21st, 2012 at 1:14 pm

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I’m sending best wishes to you for the best possible outcome!

31 | alison p-h

February 21st, 2012 at 1:15 pm

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I am sorry to hear the news. My thoughts are with you and your family as you go through this time of uncertainty. I have spent time without a paycheque and not my most favourite time. But you have an amazing family and a lot of support to get you through it all. Best wishes.

32 | Patti

February 21st, 2012 at 1:32 pm

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Andrea,
I am so sorry to read this crappy news.
I know what it is like as this happened to our family 3 years ago.
Its not a great feeling at all but you have a wonderful family and support around you.
Thinking of you.

33 | Jen Hughes

February 21st, 2012 at 2:23 pm

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Oh Andrea, I can’t fathom the stress of facing such a thing. I hope they don’t leave him hanging too long either way. After 25 years, imagine! I’ll be thinking of you.

34 | Meghan

February 21st, 2012 at 2:49 pm

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Media is changing – it is really shows in the local media in O town lately. I hope everything works out for you and your family – I am sure it will.

35 | Sara

February 21st, 2012 at 2:52 pm

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I hope in the end that the news is good. The uncertainty and waiting is so very hard! Thinking of all of you.

36 | Cath in Ottawa

February 21st, 2012 at 3:12 pm

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My fingers are crossed for you!

37 | Natalie

February 21st, 2012 at 8:01 pm

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Andrea, sending all my best thoughts your way.

38 | Sara

February 22nd, 2012 at 8:53 am

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Sending positive vibes your way! Regardless of the news, your family is strong, loving and sure to persevere. Wishing you all the best.

39 | andrea

February 22nd, 2012 at 3:38 pm

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Thanks everyone! I appreciate all the good vibes and kind words you’ve been sending our way. Things will be ok… this I know. :) xox!

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