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10 Jun, 2008

Smallish BFG update and one other thing

Posted by andrea tomkins in: Misc. life

Thank you all for your kind comments about the redesign. I still have some tweaking to do, but think I’m going to keep it for awhile. :)

So. Remember when I said that I was going to bike for groceries every day in June? Well, that was before my bike went into the shop. Since then, I’ve done groceries a couple times on foot, but mostly it’s been Mark, picking things up on the way home from work.

I got my bike back yesterday and I’m rarin’ to go, or at least I would be, if it just wasn’t so freakin’ hot outside.

But I have to go. I do. We need milk. And tea. And chickpeas. And a lot of other things that won’t fit into my newly installed saddlebag. I need to figure out how I’m going to do this. Perhaps a saddlebag and a backpack? 

Yesterday I bought salmon and veggies on the bike. Miraculously, the boston lettuce (from Quebec!) made it home without wilting or getting totally crushed. It was hotter than Hades yesterday, but it felt really good to travel on my own steam. But if I’m going to go today, I will have to go later.

Today I have my second-of-two interviews with a feller who’s writing an article about me. Me!

When I sat down with him last week the first thing I told him was how boring I was. ;)

We talked a lot about the Trust Experiment. And swap boxes. And randomness. And concrete.

I won’t reveal any more about it right now (HELLO, what if the article makes me seem like a total doorknob?) except to say that being on the receiving end of the interviewing process is quite challenging. Imagine being asked big questions like “what made you the way you are” and “why do you do the things you do” etc. etc. for 90 minutes.

Uhh, I dunno! 

It’s a strange feeling, talking about yourself for such a long stretch of time. Generally, socially, talking about yourself like this is frowned upon. If you talked about yourself for hours at a time you’d have no friends left. But there I was! Going on like never before – blah blah blah blah. But it wasn’t exactly easy. Although I’ve spent quite enough time in my own head (and keep a blog – ha), it’s not like I spend days superanalysing my own life. I just live it.

While I was talking to him I was thinking about how I was being picked apart for publication, and how this person was interpreting the trivialities that escaped my lips.  Once it’s out there it’s hard to erase, you know what I mean? There is one thing I mentioned that he’s likely going to use. I told him I’m an introvert. I’m still debating whether or not I should have admitted that. I wonder if this information could cause me some professional damage. It’s not like a have a phobia or anything, but I am not terribly outgoing. I wish I could change this about myself, but I’m not sure I can.

Or perhaps I should just stop putting so much pressure on myself. ?

Gah!

Help me prep would ya? Give me some tough questions to think about while I’m vacuuming!


6 Responses to "Smallish BFG update and one other thing"

1 | Marla

June 10th, 2008 at 8:20 am

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I love this template, and I know a change is as good as a rest! But I must say I get a start when I click on through from Bloglines, because a mutual friend uses it for her secret blog, and so for a second I anticipate a little drama!

Don’t worry about being an introvert – the problem is that most understand the word to mean, as it’s derived from the original use, a shyness or quiet personality. It’s not the true definition, from when the term was coined, which goes more toward understanding from where you draw your energy. Introverts draw their energy from being alone, Extroverts from being with others.

So, when I see Josephine, like me, stand on the fringes of the group, sussing out the people and the situation and gathering herself before jumping in and taking part in what they’re doing – that’s introversion. It doesn’t make us Extroverts that we can be bright and funny and energetic when we’re around people. It makes us Introverts that after all that, we need to go and read or sit quietly in a more solitary way to replenish ourselves.

Of course, my source for this is what I read after originally learning this difference from the Mary Sheedy books – so it has all of the credibility of Oprah. But it helped me understand how Josie and I could structure our days when there were social activities planned.

I suppose you’ll laugh to realize you have a fellow introvert in me?

2 | porter

June 10th, 2008 at 8:35 am

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Personally, I think of introverts as very strong people. People who are most comfortable with themselves, in their own skin, people who know themselves. I don’t think of them as shy or in any negative light…maybe quiet which isn’t negative is it?
Okay questions….hmmm….must think about this while I vacuum!!!

3 | Lex

June 10th, 2008 at 9:04 am

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1. great new design

2. interviews are hard if you are an introvert. Even harder if you play an extrovert professionally, on your blog and in media. In fact, Marla has already said this all better than I can, so I’ll stop this point.

3. Don’t judge yourself. What’s said is said. you can critique the results and learn from the experience once you see the article… before then you’re just burning energy and in this heat that’s craziness.

4. tough questions – Here’s one drawn from my week.

You are sitting at a cafe. You chat briefly with a woman at a nearby table who’s there with her 2 kids. How do you handle realizing you referred to her child as “your daughter” when you realized the kid dressed in the pink tutu and carrying a gold clutch purse is a little boy? The child heard you. What do you do? Apologize? Let it slide?

4 | J.

June 10th, 2008 at 12:29 pm

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I’m getting used to the new template.. it’s a little ackward at first.

5 | BeachMama

June 10th, 2008 at 1:55 pm

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Being an introvert is not necessarily a bad thing. And you, like me, is only that way until you meet someone. Then you open up and are very extroverted. It all comes around in the end.

6 | DaniGirl

June 11th, 2008 at 6:49 am

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Oooo, pretty shiny new blog!! Love it!!

Having met you and conversed with you and gotten to know you fairly well, I can only imagine that the interviewer will find you as delightful as do the rest of us. I wouldn’t say you come across as particularly introverted, but then people always seem surprised when I admit to being horribly shy. I think we’re often too hard on ourselves about this, too.

If I were interviewing you, I’d want to know if you ever regretted anything that you said on your blog, or if upon reflection there is something you would have done or said differently.

Can’t wait to hear more about the interview!! The only time it happened to me, for the Chatelaine piece about infertility, came out very favourably, so I’m sure it will be the same for you.

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