a peek inside the fishbowl

(And yes, I know it’s only Tuesday!)

I’m suddenly craving fireplaces, warm slippers, and bowls of hot soup.

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— Mathew Ingram (@mathewi) November 21, 2014

• Falling, iasc-culture.org
• Serial review – the greatest murder mystery you will ever hear, theguardian.com
• 9 Things Drivers Need to Stop Saying in the Bikes vs. Cars Debate, wired.com
• Where the F*** is Princess Leia? medium.com
• Permanent Marker: Why ink still matters, thewalrus.ca
• How Tacoma Art Museum Criticizes a Collection Without Angering the Donors, thestranger.com

On the nightstand: The Racketeer

My sense of time is distorted. Mostly because one of the publications I work on, Capital Parent Newspaper, is produced ahead of time and it messes with my internal calendar. The Christmas issue is already out and I’ve been thinking about the New Year for a couple of weeks already. Perhaps that’s where this post comes from. It’s not even the end of November but I have found my thoughts turning to my New Year’s resolutions. Here’s the thing: for once, I was actually able to keep them this year. (Well, all except for the one I wrote about here. The 52-week jar was a bit of a bust. Mostly because we were dipping into the well to fund things like school trips and forgetting to add to it. Gah.)

But for the most part, I did well. My resolutions in January 2014 included:

• A minimum of 20 minutes on the treadmill every day. The reason this worked is because I use Facebook as the carrot to get me there every morning. (Hey, whatever works, right?)
• Taking my vitamins every day.
• Getting some fresh air every day.
• Filling out my one-line journal every night.

I think I’m a happier and healthier person because of them, even though they aren’t big ones that include climbing mountains, marathons, or gym memberships.

Sidebar: I find it fascinating how energy begets energy. I think back on how hard it was to do that first 20 minute walk, but I persevered and did it. And I did it again and again. And every time it got a tiiiiiiny bit easier. Imperceptively, really, but that’s what got me through those hard days and convinced me to go back. (Also, Facebook.)

I know I’ve written this here before, and I hate to sound like a broken record, but sometimes we need to put ourselves first, not just for us, for our health and well-being, but so we can be good to others; good parents, good bosses, good employees, good neighbours. When we put ourselves first and find what we need in order to be healthy, well-balanced, functioning citizens of the world, the rest of the stuff is more likely to fall into place. Don’t you think? I know that when I feel good, I am happier. And when I’m happier, I’m able to accomplish more, with a lighter heart, and I’m sure there has to be an effect on the people around me.

So here’s my challenge to you: will you promise to spend a few moments to take care of yourself for just one day? It could be today, it could be sometime this weekend or next week. Just find a day, and do something for yourself.

You can interpret the “take better care of myself” in any way that makes sense to you; mentally or physically or both. But remember, it’s about YOU. Here are a few ideas of the kinds of things you can do:

• eat a balanced breakfast
• go for a brisk walk, and push yourself to go faster
• send the kids away and enjoy a long bath while reading a magazine
• skip dessert and eat an apple instead
• go to bed early
• take the steps two at a time
• download an app like Couch-5K or 100 pushups and challenge yourself physically
• drink extra water throughout the day in a pretty glass
• take your vitamins
• floss
• do that THING you’ve been putting off: e.g. make that doctor’s appointment already!
• do that active THING you used to love doing and haven’t done in forever: swimming, skating, hiking, bowling, etc.
• throw out your granny panties and buy all new underthings that make you feel great
• fix that button on your favourite coat/shirt/cardigan
• be vegetarian for a day
• be a vegan for a day
• what’s your favourite fruit or veggie? Buy it for yourself, no matter the cost, and eat it.
• make and eat a proper lunch
• make a coffee date with a friend

I’m sure we can collectively come up with a few more things we can do on “take care of myself” day. And I’m not suggesting a day at the spa (although wouldn’t THAT be nice?) but a tiny thing or two, that’s just for you.

Try it and see. Then come back and tell me what you did and how it made you feel. Who knows? Maybe that thing do will give you a bit of a charge, and you might find yourself repeating it the next day. Because energy begets energy, right?